tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158108616651154469.post8977919957462784560..comments2023-04-10T02:23:35.479-07:00Comments on Seventeen Pillows: Dealing with death and dysfunctionTamara Dawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09424932082361923488noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158108616651154469.post-27672311779304189172012-07-29T05:23:01.477-07:002012-07-29T05:23:01.477-07:00While my situation is not the same as yours, I too...While my situation is not the same as yours, I too come from dysfunction. It is definitely mind boggling. You are doing the right thing by loving on your kids and breaking the cycle. I try hard to understand why people are the way they are, but its an enigma. Just have to move forward. Good on you for writing it out. (((Hugs)))Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13120194114782677530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158108616651154469.post-84365688811507756222011-10-03T22:36:16.343-07:002011-10-03T22:36:16.343-07:00Reading your words has given me pause for thought....Reading your words has given me pause for thought. I would like to thank you for taking the time to write your words in a way that add beauty to a horrible situation. Your words have a way of allowing you to come out shining because my girl, you are such a treasure! <br /><br />I read a hidden nuance within your words and it's one that I could relate to. I remember saying to myself one day " I am not responsible for my parent's mistakes." When I finally realized that, I could let go and let myself live in freedom. I no longer sought the love of my loveless family. My mom made the decision to give me up, but I didn't have to live with the decision she made for the rest of my life. I had to let myself off the hook and quit allowing myself to take the ownership and responsibility of guilt that she should have felt. When I let go, I finally felt free and accepted that I am me defined as a woman of valor without the family backing regardless of the name on my birth certificate. <br /><br />I could respond in pages... and I really truly want to encourage you, that you are not defined by bloodline. You are you, speacial remarkable, loveable and your life is now governed by your choice. Now you have the power to say what you want, and no one can take that from you! HUGS!shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765736225415845638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158108616651154469.post-43605367753413178032011-09-25T15:13:35.262-07:002011-09-25T15:13:35.262-07:00I've been reading since you told us about your...I've been reading since you told us about your blog the last time, and I'm drawn to your story. So many of the feelings, even though the situation was different, are the same. As Stephanie said above, we crave that love and adoration from our mother. Without it, there are so many issues to be dealt with. I applaud you for putting all this here, for writing about your journey. You mentioned in another entry, I believe, that you hope to help other kids who went through similiar situations. That's wonderful!! Kids truly listen to someone who's been in their shoes, and who cares. So glad to have met you!!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07812669907993734373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158108616651154469.post-58008676072004030372011-09-25T15:06:44.760-07:002011-09-25T15:06:44.760-07:00Every child wants to be adored by their Mamma, no ...Every child wants to be adored by their Mamma, no matter what. That is just human nature. As awful as things were and even with the hurtful things she repeatedly did, a child ALWAYS wants their mother's love. It is a testament to your resiliency and strength that you were able to break this cycle of coldness and running away, with warmth and presence to your kids as the loving mother you are. That is amazing. Stay strong. You are so worthy of the relentless and unconditional love of your mother and I am so sorry she let you down time and time again.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01840442287230062184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158108616651154469.post-25999986243611506032011-09-25T14:12:13.675-07:002011-09-25T14:12:13.675-07:00Such a tragedy that hearts can be that cold. I don...Such a tragedy that hearts can be that cold. I don't get it. I never will. You have broken the cycle of cold hearts. That's what your purpose in thisvworld is among others. Be proud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com