Timeline:
1-23-1979 - Found walking alone on a sidewalk. Taken to Hillcrest Receiving Home by police. Eventually released back to my mother.
7-19-1979 - Mother incarcerated, taken back to Hillcrest Receiving Home. Released back to mother.
10-17-1979 - Mother abandoned me in Hillcrest parking lot. I was 3 years old. Pillow 1
Exact date TBD - Entered my first foster home placement (Janet) Pillow 2
9-4-1981 - Adopted Pillow 3
10-7-1983 - Adoption relinquished due to poor bonding and behavior issues
Date TBD - Assessed at County Mental Health for 30+ days Pillow 4
Date TBD - Entered New Alternatives Rainbow House (Group Home) Pillow 5
11-28-1984 - Placed in foster home (Agnese) Pillow 6
2-11-1988 - Placed in foster home (Elaine) Pillow 7
9-1-1988 - Back to Hillcrest Pillow 8
Date TBD - Emergency foster care placement Pillow 9
10-13-1988 - Foster home (Agnese) takes me back Pillow 10
2-2-1990 - Placed in Casa de Amparo a juvenile facility Pillow 11
5-10-1990 - Placed in foster home (Maria) Pillow 12
11-13-1990 - Placed in foster home (Joan) Pillow 13
Fall 1992 - Placed in foster home (Sherry) Pillow 14
Date TBD - Back to Hillcrest Pillow 15
Found my family via letter to adoption reunion in April 1993.
5-1993 - Foster home (Agnese) takes me back Pillow 16
July 1993 - Maternal Grandfather files for legal guardianship of me and becomes my legal guardian. I am 17 years old. Pillow 17 - Home at last.
* Some placements were not included in this timeline such as temporary foster placements (less than a week) and the brief times I spent in a foster home before my mother abandoned me.
2 comments:
WOW!!!
Do you ever wish you could go back and talk to that precious little girl and let her know that things will be okay, that she will eventually be married, have children, be... okay?
My husband had a horrendous childhood with all kinds of abuses and abandonment and hurt. And he has often expressed a wish to go back and talk to the boy he was. Just to let him know he'd be fine someday.
For me, I'd like to go back and comfort that child. That little boy who was so hurt and could not trust.
You have an amazing story.
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